6 Secrets of Gay Anal Sex


Anal Care is important to prevent discomfort in bed and in public. AOOOUSH!!! Anal sex can be pleasurable for gay men, but there are a few things you should know before having anal sex and a few tips to help ease the pain.

1. Know how the anus works: Before having anal sex let’s talk about how the anus works. The anus is the opening at the end of the colon which controls the passage of waste. Waste passes through the small intestines to your colon, then your rectum and finally out the anus. The opening and closing of the anus is controlled by the internal and external sphincter muscles (the most important muscle when engaging in anal sex). The sphincter muscle is a sensitive membrane with many nerve endings and thus the source of pleasure or pain.

2. Reduce the pain: Pain associated with anal sex can be due to pressure or friction against the sphincter muscles, hemorrhoids or anal fissures. Some pain can be reduced by properly lubricating (with water based lube). Seek a gay friendly doctor for assistance with hemorrhoids, fissures or other medical conditions.

3. Getting to know your body: The more familiar you are with your body, the more enjoyable anal sex can be. Each person’s sphincter muscles react to penetration differently. Since the muscles control the opening and closing of the anus, you need to learn how yours works. Spend time safely exploring the sensitivity of your sphincter and how it reacts when you are relaxed or tense. Practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing. Exploring the sensitivity of your sphincter is an exercise both you and your partner can enjoy prior to penetration. Openly communicate how you feel in certain situations: What makes you tense? What are your limits? STOP if you feel uncomfortable, experience pain or bleeding. The more you both know your bodies, the better your anal sex experience .

4. Practice good hygiene: Many gay men shy away from anal sex because of the possible hygiene problems. Maintaining proper hygiene is not only important for an enjoyable anal sex experience, but your health as well. Cleaning can be overdone, however, be careful with over the counter internal cleansing products. They contain harsh ingredients not formulated for the anus. Also, avoid over wiping as this can cause irritation and bleeding. Baby wipes also contain perfumes that can irritate the skin. To properly clean, use pre-moistened adult wipes, like Charmin, Fresh mates or Kleenex Cottonelle flush able wipes.

5. Beware of the dangers of STI’s: The anus is a thin membrane and therefore a hot bed for sexually transmitted infections; HIV and other STI’s can easily enter the bloodstream, especially when there are abrasions or tears in the anus. Having a this membrane between your bloodstream, especially when there are abrasions or tears in the anus. Having a thin membrane between you bloodstream and your partner’s bodily fluids is what makes bareback sex so dangerous. Always use a condom and water based lube and practice safer sex.

6. Dispel anal sex myths: Many gay men avoid seeking medical attention because they feel if they’ve had anal sex doctor immediately well. Yes, the anus is stretched after anal sex, but it returns to normal soon after. If you think something may be wrong with your anus, see a gay-friendly doctor.

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11 thoughts on “6 Secrets of Gay Anal Sex

  1. fabian thomas says:

    another GREAT post!!! This info is sooo important and not talked about enough.

    One addition: glycerine-based lube is actually better for anal sex, since it’s ‘silkier/smoother’ in consistency and doesn’t dry out like water-based lube. It’s available in Jamaica.

    • Skyy says:

      I like that you’re always commenting on our posts…. It is very much appreciated by the Real Flexx team. Would you be interested in doing a guest post on the blog about Glycerine based lubricants? It would be a great way to introduce something new to the community.

      Real Flexx
      Real Lives. Real People. Real Connections

  2. Thank you so much Fabian for your comment!!!!

    Anal care is one of the topics that is usually neglected, and therefore it was pertinent that this post was done.

    Real Flexx
    Real Lives. Real People. Real Connections

    • Hi Emmanuel, as you may know some men are more endowed than others. However, with a big package comes big responsibilities for both the giver and the receiver

      With this “big dick” the receiving partner needs to ensure that he knows when sex becomes painful and it is equally important that the giver is aware that he cannot be too forceful.

      Please note also that if the receiver is not properly lubricated with water based lube then it makes sex that more painful and can leave abrasions (tears) creating even more discomfort.

      Emmanuel one final thing to note use a condom and water based lube with ever sex act. Make sex romantic and pleasurable by knowing what makes you moan with satisfaction and what makes you groan in discomfort.

      Thanks for your question and keep reading our Real Flexx posts.
      Real Lives. Real People. Real Connections.

  3. It’s funny how people still get caught up about anal sex. I figured things out when I was reasonably young and have obviously done a lot more learning through experience. However reading the comment of ‘how can somebody have a dick up there’ made me shake my head in disbelief. I hope at some point people get over the fact that people are gay and can just accept everybody as people… Just like we do the straights.

    Anyway, thank you for the article! Great information for somebody interested in exploring the topic :)

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  5. Krys Storm says:

    I found that after my lover and I had our first night of love making Yes it was wounderful but uncomfortable and it felt great. It was the next day that his cock felt more comfortable inside me I just saying it takes time

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